100 Likes Winner!

Hello blogosphere and hope you are having a happy stuff-your-face-with-peeps weekend!



Mmmm.  All that sugary goodness.  Don’t worry.  Bean isn’t getting to eat any of them.  Father isn’t either.  Muahahahaha!


Anyways, thanks for your patience around the 100 likes giveaway!  Without further ado…here is the finished cover:


As you can see, Rarity is spending some time taming that lovely mane of Fluttershy’s.  The picture doesn’t do the creative colouring justice – he used all the right colours but added in his own personal touch with some greens and blues.  

And the lucky winner is….”Dameon Dark”!  The winner has been contacted and the prize is in his hands.  🙂  Thank you to everyone who entered!

In other news, did you know there was a game out for the 3DS that is pretty much like animal crossing but in Disney world and you get to hob-nob with all your fav Disney characters while creating fashionable ensembles and run your own Disneyland cafe?  No?  Well you do now.  And so do I….so for now I bid you adieu and welcome you back to our regular programming.


NaBloPoMo FAIL – And WIN!


Just because, here is my dog. She says, What up?

Yesterday was the second day I was unable to post for NaBloPoMo.  I’ve picked up some late night shifts at work and don’t have time to sit down and whittle out a thought-provoking or even flippant post.  


I have gained SO many new readers and am having MY FIRST CONTEST!  How exciting!

I wrote an important post that was featured on BlogHer and helped spread the word about an invisible issue here in Canada.

I’ve got the blogging bug back and won’t be disappearing anytime soon.  

So really, this is a win, despite the not-every-day posting thing.  I’ve got some great posts planned for the future, please look forward to it!

100 Likes Thank You Give Away!



Thanks to NaBloPoMo I have many new readers of this humble blog.  Perhaps you came to hear about Bean and his toddler antics.  Maybe you clicked *follow* because you enjoy my geeky posts of nerdy awesome.  Or perhaps you are here to support me in my mental health challenges – or my goal to speak my mind about important issues.  Whatever the reason, I welcome you to my humble home on the web and THANK YOU for making this month worthwhile!

There are OVER 100 people following me (that’s a pretty big line) and to celebrate this achievement I’ve decided to host a give away here at Cupcakes and Hoodies.

I have one of these:



and if you win this give away you will not only win this fun-to-read comic about ponies, you will get one with a unique cover drawn BY ME and coloured BY ME AND BEAN.  That’s right – a one of a kind opportunity for a collaboration by myself and my up-and-coming artist baby boy.

How awesome is that?  All you have to do is comment on this post – you can write whatever you’d like – and that’s it.  It’d be awesome if you left a note telling me something super about yourself, but even an “I’m IN C&H” will get you entered.  If you want to share this give away with your friends, please do!  And don’t forget to find me on Facebook for all the updates, fun postings and stories about Bean you don’t get on here.

The contest winner will be announced at the end of NaBloPoMo – so March 31.  I’ll post a picture of the finished book them mail it off to the winner!

Thanks again for all your support, and I look forward to sharing more with you in the future!

Short and Sweet

It’s 9 pm (previously 8pm stupid DST) and I’m exhausted.  So I’m going to finish this post, eat a couple peeps (only reason I acknowledge Easter is to chow down on peeps and cream eggs) and head to bed.

Prompt for today:  Do I see myself blogging in 10 years?  Perhaps.  But my blogging will have morphed into more of an art blog.

Also, my post http://www.blogher.com/invisible-women-canada-missing-and-murdered-indigenous-women?from=bhspinner got featured on BlogHer – the second post I’ve had do that!  🙂  Which makes me happy, because whatever gets more word out, the better.

And finally, I’ve reached a milestone : 100 readers!  THANK YOU SO MUCH!  I’m honoured you have chosen to travel this blogging journey with me, and that you enjoy what I have to say.  🙂  I have plans to do a fun treat for you all sometime soon in celebration.

Goodnight, sleep tight, and always keep a stuffed animal close for when nightmares strike.  

Bloggers Who Have Changed Me

“I will no longer let the fear of vicious comments or replies stop me from speaking what I believe to be right. I will also never give a message that everybody will agree with. I know that even my most faithful followers will never agree 100% with what I say. I also know that they know that and are fine with it.

I am done letting the bullies win. They won’t anymore. Not here.”
― Dan PearceSingle Dad Laughing

How has blogging changed my life?

Perhaps someday the writing of my blog will have a profound effect on me enough to warrant writing about it.  For now, though, the real change to my life has come from reading the writing of other bloggers.  I’ve been exposed to viewpoints and issues I never would have had I not begun following some very awesome bloggers.  I’ve joined this little community and had great discussions around motherhood, pregnancy, feminism and too many other things to list.

So to answer this question allow me to share the blogs of people who have made a significant impact on my life.

Make Me A Sammich – This no-nonsense feminist gal has educated me on everything from feminism to trigger warnings in her brilliant posts.  When she has something to say, I listen.

The Belle Jar – It’s no secret that I love this woman.  She is full of fire, whether it’s writing about rape culture, feminism, racism or her adorable family.

Indie Music Mom – Changing how I view music for my child one non-nursery rhyme at a time.

Amalah – The original mommy blogger I found on the net and the person who inspired me to start blogging my troubles and successes with my pregnancy.  The rest has grown from there.

Raising My Rainbow – One of the first blogs I began reading on WordPress – a woman raising her gender non-conforming son.  Sparked my current line of thinking on gender and the roles we force our children into.

The Waiting – She’s a fun and fearless blogger with a witty and humorous style of writing.  I came for the mommy blogs and stayed for the puns.

Black Dog Runner – A new blog on my roll, but one that deals with what it’s like to live with depression and anxiety.  I love the way he talks about depression and found so much in common when reading the posts.

So there you go.  The blogs that have or that continue to inspire me, all in different ways.  Sure, I read many other blogs and am discovering new voices everyday – but these ones, they stay with me.  I hope you find them to your liking as well.

In Defense of Belle Jar: Sitting In The World’s Largest Pub (Internet Privacy and how there is NONE)

Welcome to Internet, the world’s largest pub.

Would you like a drink?  Our menu includes house drinks “The Banned Troll”, “Duckface Darling” or the “Selfie” (growing in popularity every year).  Or how about draught?  SInce I can pull from pretty much anywhere in the world the choices are endless.

Let me give you a tour.  Every table has a name.  Pinterest, Facebook, Yahoo, WordPress.  Sometimes the crowds at each table mingle to share pictures, ideas and social commentary.  There are people from all walks of life here – and all ages so play nice.

Please ignore the scurrying black shadows under the tables.  Sometimes they’ll pipe up with inappropriate or misleading comments into your conversation but when they get out of hand the group in the Guy Fawkes masks usually shine some light on the situation.

So welcome, here’s your drink, and you only have to remember one thing.  “There is no privacy here.”

Rosie over at Make Me A Sammich has issued a call to arms on behalf of our friend and brilliant blogger, The Belle Jar.

*trigger warning for talk of rape and rape culture*

You see, Belle broke a story about rape culture at the University of Ottawa.  Go and read her blog post about it – it’s ok, I’ll wait.

 Back?  Angry?  Good.  Here are a couple others you should also read on the story:  “So What IS Rape Culture, if not this?” and “Rape Culture at UofO, Come At Me Boys”  –  I don’t have anything else to add on rape culture and how horrible it is that these men felt it was alright to degrade their fellow leader the way that they did.  Belle, Matthew and Rosie have all covered that subject really, really well.  

The Belle Jar is, due to her post, receiving a lot of bullying and intimidation.  She’s also been included in the lawsuit against Anne Marie Roy by the men who degraded her for sharing and spreading the screencap of the conversation.  There have been comments defending the perpetrators and their behavior (boys will be boys BULLSHIT) and rape apologists (it wasn’t really a threat, an actual rape didn’t happen so it’s not as bad as you say) and other inane and asinine comments.  The one thing I’ve seen pop up over and over and over again is that it was a “private” conversation that no one but the guys should have had access to/

Ok people, let me tell you something about the internet.  Something the younger generation seems to have forgotten.  There is NO SUCH THING as privacy on here.  NONE.  If you are operating under the assumption that there is, you are sorely mistaken.  Accounts can be hacked.  Settings can be changed by providers.  Deleting conversations and pictures doesn’t work most of the time.  What you put out there can stay out there forever – some have likened it to a digital tattoo about yourself.

Not to mention that whatever you put on the internet you are PUTTING IN WRITING.  Which can then be screen capped.  And sent to people you don’t want to see it.  No matter what the laws are, no matter what kind of privacy you THINK you have, it won’t really matter when your nude selfie or admittance to a severe dislike of Doctor Who is out there for the world to see, will it?

I think my analogy above is pretty accurate.  We’re all hanging out in the world’s largest pub.  With the dim lights and tables in different sections it gives the illusion of privacy – but you always have to remember that at anytime, anywhere someone could be watching and listening to what you do.

I love this list “Top 10 Things Not To Share On Social Networking Sites”

“Social networking is all about sharing, so something you think is in confidence can easily be shared and then shared again, and before you know it, someone you don’t even know has access to something private. “When in doubt, leave it out” is a good motto to follow. And always remember that anything you share has the potential to be leaked in some way.”

I’m glad these guys were caught and that their conversation went public.  They were in a position of power within the University.  Over other students who would be younger and more vulnerable.  If this is the way they talk about someone they are supposed to work with what kind of behavior would have happened when other students pissed them off?  It’s been brought to light and now their actions have consequences.  With power comes responsibility.  (Yes, I semi-quoted Uncle Ben from Spiderman)

Since I’ve been working on this post there was an update and all four have resigned from their posts.

Oddly, I’m also able to tie this blog post into NaBloPoMo’s prompt for today.  “How is your writing voice like you? How does your writing voice differ from you?”  I have an inner voice who is dying to get out.  She’s angry at the world and wants to state her opinions loud and clear.  She wants to tackle the hard stuff and make a difference in this world.  To take controversial topics and add her voice to the others – to stand in solidarity with women like Rosie and Belle Jar.

But, truthfully, I’m frightened.  I’ve seen the shit-storm that comes down on women who are too loud, too opinionated and it frightens me.  I know, I know, it means “they’ve” won.  However, I’m not sure I could, emotionally, take it.  The bloggers that do – they are amazingly strong.  

So to answer the question, my writing voice is as safe as my speaking voice.  But it differs as here, in writing, I feel I’m able to be stronger.  Smarter.  Present myself with some intelligence.  

This post is that attempt.  I’m standing up for my friend who is being wrongly attacked.  I’m writing about a controversial topic and facing my fear of the trolls and haters.  Because even though they will be baby steps, someday I want to have a strong voice too.

I want to grow up to be Belle.  




Taking A Risk – NaBloPoMo

I’m going to give this “post every day for a month” thing a try.  I mean, I’m full of things to talk about.  Breastfeeding, parenting, cupcakes, comics, my son, my dog, my attempt to clean my house and keep my sanity.

The theme this month is “Risk” and there are some neat prompts from the NaBloPoMo organizers.  This will be a challenge for me to complete a blog post every day for a month.  Many times I sit down and get sidetracked, or the words won’t come out or (the most common) I’m just too damn tired.

We bought a diaper for Spitha today.  A reusable doggie diaper that she will no doubt hate.  The last time we tried diapers (disposable) it was the most pathetic thing.  She just…stood there.  Staring.  At me.  With those pathetically sad eyes of hers.  I wish I could explain to her that I’m sorry but I want my son (who is now fully mobile and not contained within the confines of the living room) to crawl about the whole apartment (childproofed areas) without crawling through dog urine.  Also I’m kinda tired of stepping in it myself.  Plus she’ll be happier if she can be with us too.  The diaper is cloth so hopefully she’ll get used to it faster.

Also I lucked out and ended up at the grocery store when they were giving out samples of chocolate.  SCORE.

Well, since I’ll be blogging my fingers off starting tomorrow I guess I’ll call it a night.  I have video games to play plus my hubby and I are watching “The Prisoner” from the late 60’s early 70’s.  I keep expecting the Beatles or Monkees to pop up and start singing.

So goodnight readers (and hello to all my new followers).  Here is a picture of adorable just because.

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